From a Woman’s Perspective Column Nov. 9/04

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Liz writes, Dear Marilyn, I am 34 years old and have always dressed modestly and conservatively. I am in a new relationship and socializing more than I used to. I am drawn to the flowy chiffon dresses with off the shoulder necklines. I look in the mirror and think I look great but feel it is too bare or too provocative and I leave the store empty handed. I would love to break out of my old mould. What do you advice?

Dear Liz, Stepping out of one’s comfort zone is sometimes a slow process. You are young and active and drawn to something new and sexy. I applaud you for experimenting and trying on a new look. Do go slowly. Buying hastily and never wearing your purchases would be a waste. Next time you try an open neckline soft flowy dress try to assess what it is that makes you feel uncomfortable. If it is the bare shoulders try adding a wrap to give you a cover up that you can control. If the dress is too see through try adding a slip to give weight. If however, you feel like you are in a costume and can’t get comfortable, keep shopping for something you can live with. Stepping out of one’s comfort zone for an evening can be very great fun. Do experiment and play to find a dress that creates the mood you desire. Move slowly and your own personal style will emerge.

Peggy writes, I have always been a very tailored person. I went shopping yesterday and felt very out of touch with the fashion offerings. Vintage, lace, bows, flounces are not for me. I want to be current and update my wardrobe but I can’t change to feminine romantic. Is there another look for this season?

Marilyn writes, There is always more than one look and fashion statement. Clothes should enhance you and make you feel comfortable and equipped to deal with the world.

You sound as if you have a true sense of who you are and what you don’t like. Be true to yourself but be open to change. You don’t describe your appearance but some items you might consider are a tweed jacket , a knee length skirt, pearls, a poncho, cape or shawl, or a cardigan instead of a jacket.

None of the above require lace, ribbons or ruffles. Do explore the fashion menu and update with items that speak to you. Don’t say no without playing a little. You may surprise yourself and find you might consider a vintage look piece of jewelry as part of your look.

Dressing is very personal and pulling together a new look for the season can be fun and rewarding. There is nothing wrong in knowing yourself but remember as we are all growing and changing as we move through life so too our wardrobe can also grow , change, move and reflect that growth and change. Have fun!